To Communicate

A feeling;
a need to convey the feeling to achieve a desired result;
real world gestures,
physical expressions,
sounds and words.

This describes what amounts to communication in a certain perspective.

Communication is one among the few foundations which support the human civilization ; its existence & its achievements(however pointless they both might be).

What follows is in part a reply to the paranoid post of my pessimistic pal Sharkey...
Here is the Link...   Sharkeys Blog

The both of us have had innumerable discussions on this very topic and our communication process has now taken a new form; of that of blog posts. A very constrained form wherein neither will be carried away by the immediate controversial statement that one might make,which often steers the discussion away from the main subject (and we end up discussing other fantastical stuff :D, without ever reaching a conclusion ).

Now to the matter at hand.
I was going through some numbers; I was not surprised to find out that the total number of Facebook users from USA and the Population of USA (in between age 15-45 years) is almost same. That is a 1/3rd of US population and almost near 100 % of a certain age group.

 

 This means that the social fabric has changed. The way people convey their feelings to each other has changed;Communication has changed. To put things in perspective( of the old ways Vs new ways of communication). The old ways were intense; very much more intense compared to the new ways of communication. Nothing compares to seeing the smile on your Girl friends face; notice the sparkle and the small tear of joy that drops down her cheek on seeing you after a long time.There is an absolute  lack of this intensity in any Virtual form of communication. you might have a HI DEF video chat with her and might notice the tear and sparkle in the eye but never will you feel the warmth of the entire experience in her embrace.Yet, here we are with 800 million active users on Facebook. The virtual means of communication is not a completely ridiculous idea. One doesn't have to travel daily from India to USA so that he can tell her he loves her or to find out if she is doing well or to crack a wise joke with her...so on and so forth the convenience of staying in touch is just too cosy to give up.

Facebook( or the Face that sharkey fears ) is a virtual means of communication.
All Virtual means of communications are in large passive communications; without the Active real world communications to back them up they will fizzle out and die ergo virtual communications will never be able to convey what was actually intended. To make it more clear....

Lets say you try to develop a relationship with a girl entirely in the sphere of  virtual communication.
You saw her Profile on Facebook; you truly like her from the little of what you see through status updates, album pictures, interests and activities.and she also likes you back though your Facebook profile and you get a hint of it through your interactions with her over the virtual domain. This relation ship will not last untill you meet her personally.; you will at some point of time get so busy that u wont be able to keep up with this passive form of communcation ( keep up with her status updates) and the liking will eventually come down. had you met her in real life, then there is some part of of your real self dedicated to her and your communications to her will be independent of whether or not u have a good internet connection and whether or not your PC got spoilt.:) . The Passive WILL NOT LAST without the ACTIVE.

So sharkey there is nothing to be uncomfortable with virtual means of communication(/facebook) it will never replace the active form. One should learn to use both of them to effective use and be better at whatever that one wants to achieve.

Coming to the other issue that bugs you. There is definitely an information over load on Facebook in its current form. On a certain level Facebook is  just a tinted mirror of the real world society wherein existence of dislike is not acknowledged. Just as in the real world if you put too much information about yourself in the public domain you are inevitably going to land up in trouble . People have yet to come to learn this in the Facebook world. Besides, the information that you put online about yourself is what your trading when you freely enjoy GMAIL and FACEBOOK. ( The cost of free as one might put it). SO if each and every single user decides not to share his interests etc and not to let GMAIL and FACEBOOK sift through your emails and status updates for Keywords. Then the ventures wouldn't be viable economically and will shut down.



By the way nobody is asking you to see the status updates of everyone and then compliant that everyone is narcissistic.....you could just look away(or more appropriately unsubscribe/block the user whose status updates you don't want to see). as to the few persons who are in your friends list and you cannot unsubscribe ..well they are narcissistic in the real world too cant help it( Facebook amplifies the real world qualities in most cases).

Eventually people will learn not to make there life completely public.

First Love and Gears!

A strict definition of  love doesn't exist and by extension first love cannot also be defined in any clear manner, what I would be referring to in all that follows here though is the first time  that you feel some sort of a mostly unexplainable attraction and affection,particularly your late teen years ( i.e in your under-grad years).


People who do fall in love in those years and see it through, as some might put it should consider themselves to be very lucky and luck aside I believe they definitely are a happier lot as compared to to others.
At that particular age is the very first time you actually start gaining a perspective of the world around you and how to apply yourselves in it, but essentially though you are still unformed. To put it from an academic perspective lets say in the machine of the world if  we were all Gears!( :D don't start laughing it is an interesting comparison) then by the age I am speaking of only the core of the gears have formed and  the tooth are yet to take shape.

You have the basic sense of all the good and bad, the beautiful and ugly, the interesting and boring stuff, but the edges aren't trimmed, the discretion about the issues is largely vague and not fine tuned yet.
Now, if you fall in love with another person at this stage you finish your characteristics together and each one would have seen what the other person is at his basic level and hence the understanding for each other is at its greatest.

Coming back to gears comparison. Each one would have witnessed each others core i.e  each one knows what the soft spots of the other person are, each one has an understanding of where you would yield and where you have your cracks, weakness and can compensate accordingly. More important than the core; the tooth of the gears of the two personalities in question will be a perfect fit with the least amount of friction as they work together ( while they try and lead there lives in the WORLD MACHINE... ROFL it does sound funny).

In comparison if u take up people after they have grown up (i.e after they have passed the stage that I have described). They always have issues with their partners, there could be mistrust owing to the lack of knowledge on what the other person actually stands for and believes in. ( The gears have a lot of friction now) and it gets harder as time passes by to find the one with whom you'll be as happy as the other bunch.

There are a number of other comparisons I could further make such as adjustments to forced fits and compromises ...etc. etc. but I would leave it to the readers wonderful imagination to think for themselves.

At the end of it though I realized one thing you shouldn't develop heavy biases and extremely narrow views on big subjects( which is bad in general also) until you meet your life partner.Try having a bigger core and refrain developing your Gear tooth yet :D ........

~ Visa from his home sweet home.

Everything will change

..................Nothing in this world is yours, everything and everyone are just fooling around. No one has a plan, no is playing anything. What you think you had yesterday wont be with you today and you wouldn't know what will happen tomorrow.Everything will change. There is hardly anything that is yours, you will loose her, you will loose him. What you love, what you like will be long gone. The circumstances develop without your say, all you do is after there is nothing more to do. You will be made to let go.On the hope of having a say, for some choice and mostly for the love of everyone and everything that made you ponder the very same-thing you carry on. Do remember everything will change and nothing in this world is yours.......................